I want to challenge the notion that the primary goal of couple therapy is an intact couple. Of course, it is wonderful if the couple can finish therapy intact. But there is a more important primary goal. In my practice, the primary goal of couple therapy is to create a relationship based on mutual love and respect where both partners feel safe and accepted. Treatment should be aimed at this goal.

Being in an abusive relationship is an incredibly confusing experience. The details of your life usually don’t seem to line up or make sense. You feel off-balance and are trying to survive day-to-day life. For this reason, it is often hard to notice the changes in yourself that could indicate abuse.

Christmas joy is a beautiful thing that is experienced by many. However, for someone who has experienced grief, the holidays can be one of the most difficult times of the year. The special time set aside for enjoying family and friends can bring a great sadness to someone who has lost a loved one and no longer gets to sit with them at the Christmas table.

In marriage and family therapy, we use systems theory. In this field, homeostasis refers to the tendency of a family to do whatever is necessary in order to maintain its way of functioning.

Children are facing so many obstacles in the world today. Therapy gives them a safe place to process things they are experiencing and gain coping skills for the world.

If we believe that anger is a wholly negative emotion, we may try to sweep it under the rug or push it down deep in our bodies. But sometimes anger isn’t dangerous; it is fuel.

No matter what our problem, someone has advice. LOTS of people have (often conflicting) advice. But here’s the catch, none of those people on the internet actually know you or your kids.